*Definition of "struggler": someone who struggles :) ( not a real word)
Do any of you still feel like the awkward teenager trying to fit in with the cool crowd? I'm pretty sure at nearly 30 years of age, that stage in life is supposed to be well behind me. So why is it that I still occasionally slip into feeling totally out of my element in trying to make friends, and trying to fit in?
I used to be really good at making friends. Now I feel completely inept; like a complete recluse. We've lived in our house for 2.5 years, and I could probably count on one hand (maybe two) the number of times we have had friends from our neighborhood over. Sad. And true. And totally our fault. What happened to me??? Do you ever find yourself asking that question? I guess if you stop exercising those good qualities that you have been given, they're taken away; or maybe they're still there but just harder to tap into.
I struggle. Hopefully it won't take me another 30 years to leave those days completely behind.
Do any of you still feel like the awkward teenager trying to fit in with the cool crowd? I'm pretty sure at nearly 30 years of age, that stage in life is supposed to be well behind me. So why is it that I still occasionally slip into feeling totally out of my element in trying to make friends, and trying to fit in?
I used to be really good at making friends. Now I feel completely inept; like a complete recluse. We've lived in our house for 2.5 years, and I could probably count on one hand (maybe two) the number of times we have had friends from our neighborhood over. Sad. And true. And totally our fault. What happened to me??? Do you ever find yourself asking that question? I guess if you stop exercising those good qualities that you have been given, they're taken away; or maybe they're still there but just harder to tap into.
I struggle. Hopefully it won't take me another 30 years to leave those days completely behind.
9 comments:
I know exactly what you mean. I had a hard time finding friends when I in Layton and St. George. I am glad that we had a chance to work together to become good friends. We have a top secret date night with some couples in the ward... That is a good way to find people that you can become good friends with
Well you're certainly in good company, Linds! I would say that most us fit in that category, me more often than not! :) We sure do love you, though!
I'm sorry, honey :( I certainly never want you to feel that way. I love you, and think you're awesome!
It's really tough, especially with a baby during flu season. Now that spring is coming and dane is getting old enough to interact more with friends you'll be able to have park days and play dates where the kids play outside and the moms just sit and visit.
I'm sure it will get better soon.
I feel that way a lot too. We used to be more social before we had kids (or at least so many). Now we try to invite couples over around 8:00 pm (after our kids are in bed) for game night.
You are awesome, and gorgeous, and kind. I'm sure everyone is sitting around wishing they could be your friend. You'll get your grove back soon.
One more idea: I met most of my best friends in the ward/neighborhood when we started a walking group. We would go out with our strollers every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday and walk a few miles. A little exercise and a social hour all in one!
I felt the same way a few months ago, so I met someone in RS and we go to a movie once a month. It's been nice to do something outside of church and without kids haha!
Hey Linds! I'm so glad you commented on my blog because I'd lost the link to yours! I think all moms kind of go through things like that. I remember feeling for a while like I'd kinda lost my identity and was just "Delaney & Kai's mom". I got a job after staying home with the kids for 4 years and was like "whoa..." I couldn't even think of conversation starters with my new co-workers. (Granted they were all single, without kids). But I'll tell you, it's still in you, you just need to step out of your comfort zone again and it will all come back! You're an awesome chick!
I feel the same way. It's like you read my mind. I don't even go to relief society things because I'm afraid I will have to sit alone or someone will just feel bad for me and come sit by me. I feel like I have lost my social skills since becoming a stay at home mom.
I don't know when we grow out of that stage of our lives. I know that I'm around some of the girls I work with and I sit there and think, "why am I not included with these women?" Some of them I wouldn't really even want to be, but still. I don't get ignored, but I'm just not someone they look to for friendship and that's hard for me. And I feel bad that I'm not even keeping in touch with the friends I had from high school or college. I don't know what's up with that. Speaking of which, want to get together next week for a few hours so I can see you and meet Campbell? I'll be there Tues-Thurs.
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